What to expect in couples therapy
Connection and communication skills
You may want to improve your communication skills, but first you need connection so you can hear each other.
What I won’t do:
The fact is you are both right in your own context, but it isn’t safe to open fully to the other person.
How I will help
You will be safer to explore the issues that you haven’t been able to talk about productively at home.
We’ll slow things down so you can discover
Experience is a powerful teacher.
With new experiences you will
Once it is safer to speak to each other from a more vulnerable place you will be able to come closer to each other and resolve problems much more easily. You will be able to turn to each other for comfort, celebration, and love.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is based on a new science of changing intimate relationships. EFT has been proven effective in 25 years of research.
The most important indicators of success are
Emotionally Focused Therapy works well:
“We are, at last, building a science of intimate relationships.”
Susan Johnson, PhD
Emotionally Focused Therapy focuses on the needs we all have for love and acceptance – our attachment needs -- especially from our romantic partners. The science includes new information about how the brain operates under the stress of disconnection and the protection afforded by a safe trusting relationship.
Dr. Sue Johnson, Soothing the Threatened Brain
Hold me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
by Dr. Sue Johnson
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