"My mind is like a bad neighborhood, I try not to go there alone."
- Anne Lamott, author Stitches - a Handbook on Meaning, Hope, and Repair
You are the expert on your own life. You know what has worked for you in the past and what hasn't. I don’t hand out answers – most likely other people are already doing that and it hasn’t helped. I help you clear away the pain, confusion, doubt and noise of every day life so you can locate answers within yourself.
Humans have a remarkable self-healing capacity that becomes clogged when they do not have enough support. I will provide that support with acceptance and curiosity. I will help you find clarity.
Having difficulties does not make you a failure, it makes you human. People usually come to therapy when they feel stuck, or all alone (even if there are people around), or bewildered about what to do. They are thinking “No matter what I do, nothing changes” or “I don’t know where to start” or “I know something is wrong, I just don’t know what it is.” You might be in pain: sad or angry or anxious. You might be numb and hollow instead.
Many, many scientific studies have concluded that psychotherapy is effective and that by far the most important element of psychotherapeutic treatment is the alliance formed between therapist and client. I believe that my attunement to you is my most important tool. That is why I offer a free full length in office consultation to new clients. I want you to know me and feel comfortable. You can read more about my approach to therapy and theory of how change happens in the “About Me” section on this site.
Trauma is a lasting reaction to difficult life events, losses, or shocks in your life. The traumatized person loses their basic sense of trust in the world as a safe place. It is a highly personalized thing. An event that causes lasting trauma in one person does not in another. The actual form of the traumatic reaction is also different from person to person.
Current scientific thinking is that the vulnerability to a traumatic reaction and the aftermath of the event are stored in the body and in parts of the brain that are non-verbal. I have been trained in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy which is very effective in treating these non-verbal memories and reactions and help you to recover a new sense of safety in your life.
You may feel you are the only one, but I have seen many people solve problems that may be similar to yours and can help you discover the right solution for you. You may ask, "What is wrong with me? Why don’t I just get on with things?" Often it helps to discover that your emotions and reactions in your life are perfectly understandable reactions to events and situations – that other people have similar reactions but don’t talk about it either.
In the company of a safe an accepting other, you come to find out that you are not the only one having these problems. You find out that you have strengths you didn't recognize. You learn that the ways you have been solving problems came from old patterns and that you can do things differently now.